So these days you can not pick up a magazine or turn on the t.v. without seeing something about one of the teen moms from the popular MTV reality show Teen Mom. My first question is, why is this show so popular?
I don't think it is very entertaining to watch young girls humiliate themselves on national t.v. by making bad decisions (maybe not all of them have made bad decisions) in their lives, with money, boyfriends and the raising of the said babies. Why is that entertaining for people? And is it just me or does it seem like teen pregnancy has exploded since this show has started. It could have nothing to do with the show at all, or it could be because young impressionable girls see teen pregnancy and parenthood as glamorous after watching the show, and I am sure the girls get paid to be on the show also, I could be wrong about that so don't quote me!
I just had to take a break from writing this to play charades with my crazy kids.... :) my oldest son is practicing to be a mime in Paris :)
My second question is, why would anyone want to go through that experience on national television?
I remember when I first saw the show, I was like wow!! I wish I would of known I could get paid to let the world into my private torture as a teen mom, now I am so glad that I did not get the chance to do that. I am pretty sure I would of been mortified now to look back at all the mistakes that I made, and to know that everyone could judge me when I fumbled (I got pregnant a few months before I turned 16, so there was probably a dozen mistakes in the first day)! I had just as much drama and hardships as those girls. Not the same hardships, but it was just as hard. I like to think that I handled the whole situation with grace and maturity, but looking back now, I am pretty sure that I did not (and these days I am wearing rose colored glasses). I was a teen with a kid, what exactly did i know about babies, life, or anything for that matter. I will tell you what I knew, absolutely nothing! Luckily I was extremely blessed with an amazing family that all helped as much as they could! But they left the initial raising of my son to my now husband and me. I am still to this day surprised by our parents reactions, I know they were disappointed, but they did not freak out or get crazy. My mom basically figured there was nothing she could do since the baby was growing in my belly, and nobody in either of our families believes in abortions.
My last question is, if you were a young mom, or a teen mom how would you of done things different, or would you have done nothing different at all?
My son is now eleven and even though him, his dad, I all had to grow up together, he has turned out to be a great kid, who is talented, inspiring, and amazingly funny. I am sure that he has taught me more than I could ever teach him. It was super hard being a teen mom and I know I did alot of things differently than I would now, but I would never take him back, he has blessed my life in more ways than I ever could of imagined! I honestly don't think I would do much different! It was hard to learn and grow together, but we are all closer than I could have hoped for and he turned out dang good for being stuck with two crazy teen parents who didn't know what they were doing!!
I have to say I was a lucky girl, my boyfriend (now husband), stayed around and has been a great dad to all 3 of our sons and we have now been together for 12 yrs, we have not always got along, but we made it work, and we fought for each other, when one or the other wanted to give up. So just because you are a teen parent that does not mean your life is going to suck and all your choices will be wrong. It is just really hard and you have to have a lot of determination, if you do you might just make it through the hard times, and there will be many! I do not recommend going about having a family this way, it seems like doing it the "right" way is hard enough with out adding all the extra extra hard stuff that comes along with being a teen parent.
This is us on Dec. 31st 201, My two oldest boys and I were baptized, and my husband is the one who baptized us, it was an amazing day for our little family. And a testament of how far we have come together as a family!!
Much love to my mom, Sarah. my mother in law, Robin, and to my grandfather and grandmother. There are many others who gave us emotional, and sometimes even a little financial support, but with out these three I do not know where we would of been!!! Love ya guys!
I don't think it is very entertaining to watch young girls humiliate themselves on national t.v. by making bad decisions (maybe not all of them have made bad decisions) in their lives, with money, boyfriends and the raising of the said babies. Why is that entertaining for people? And is it just me or does it seem like teen pregnancy has exploded since this show has started. It could have nothing to do with the show at all, or it could be because young impressionable girls see teen pregnancy and parenthood as glamorous after watching the show, and I am sure the girls get paid to be on the show also, I could be wrong about that so don't quote me!
I just had to take a break from writing this to play charades with my crazy kids.... :) my oldest son is practicing to be a mime in Paris :)
My second question is, why would anyone want to go through that experience on national television?
I remember when I first saw the show, I was like wow!! I wish I would of known I could get paid to let the world into my private torture as a teen mom, now I am so glad that I did not get the chance to do that. I am pretty sure I would of been mortified now to look back at all the mistakes that I made, and to know that everyone could judge me when I fumbled (I got pregnant a few months before I turned 16, so there was probably a dozen mistakes in the first day)! I had just as much drama and hardships as those girls. Not the same hardships, but it was just as hard. I like to think that I handled the whole situation with grace and maturity, but looking back now, I am pretty sure that I did not (and these days I am wearing rose colored glasses). I was a teen with a kid, what exactly did i know about babies, life, or anything for that matter. I will tell you what I knew, absolutely nothing! Luckily I was extremely blessed with an amazing family that all helped as much as they could! But they left the initial raising of my son to my now husband and me. I am still to this day surprised by our parents reactions, I know they were disappointed, but they did not freak out or get crazy. My mom basically figured there was nothing she could do since the baby was growing in my belly, and nobody in either of our families believes in abortions.
My last question is, if you were a young mom, or a teen mom how would you of done things different, or would you have done nothing different at all?
My son is now eleven and even though him, his dad, I all had to grow up together, he has turned out to be a great kid, who is talented, inspiring, and amazingly funny. I am sure that he has taught me more than I could ever teach him. It was super hard being a teen mom and I know I did alot of things differently than I would now, but I would never take him back, he has blessed my life in more ways than I ever could of imagined! I honestly don't think I would do much different! It was hard to learn and grow together, but we are all closer than I could have hoped for and he turned out dang good for being stuck with two crazy teen parents who didn't know what they were doing!!
I have to say I was a lucky girl, my boyfriend (now husband), stayed around and has been a great dad to all 3 of our sons and we have now been together for 12 yrs, we have not always got along, but we made it work, and we fought for each other, when one or the other wanted to give up. So just because you are a teen parent that does not mean your life is going to suck and all your choices will be wrong. It is just really hard and you have to have a lot of determination, if you do you might just make it through the hard times, and there will be many! I do not recommend going about having a family this way, it seems like doing it the "right" way is hard enough with out adding all the extra extra hard stuff that comes along with being a teen parent.
This is us on Dec. 31st 201, My two oldest boys and I were baptized, and my husband is the one who baptized us, it was an amazing day for our little family. And a testament of how far we have come together as a family!!
Much love to my mom, Sarah. my mother in law, Robin, and to my grandfather and grandmother. There are many others who gave us emotional, and sometimes even a little financial support, but with out these three I do not know where we would of been!!! Love ya guys!
I love this Wendy!! And I'm looking forward to reading many more. :) I agree that doing things the "right" way would have been much easier but I wouldn't change it for the world either. My kids have been my guardian angels more times than one. They are my reason for life and my whole heart. I know my oldest was sent to me to save my life and teach me so many things. And boy did he! I may not have the happy ending you were lucky enough to have but I still wouldn't change a thing. I'm so proud of you and you are an amazing mother and wife. Love you!
ReplyDeleteThanks!!!I def believe that children are sent to us at the "right" time, to teach us!!! All three of my kids have said something at one point or another where I was like wow, that kid is so wise! LOL!!! Love you Kel!
DeleteLove the Blog Wendy. Thanks for letting us in on a small piece of ur live. I truely think u and Cort are strong, amazing people. Keep up the great work on raising those amazing boys!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Tamie!! :)
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